Motherhood: Four Generations of Love
The past few weeks, we've been lucky enough to have my grandmother (aka my "Nanna") with us visiting from Spain so I wanted to take a quick moment to celebrate four generations of strength, love, and family! True to form, Nanna insisted that we document this moment with Baby Arya and after looking through the photos, I'm so glad we did. Now that I have a daughter of my own, I can't help but wax poetic on the ins, outs, ups and downs of motherhood. On one hand, I feel so grateful to have learned a thing or two over the years from the female role models in my life but on the other, there are times where I feel out of my depths. And that's where these two come in -- my mom and my Nanna are superheros in high heels and lipstick. One is the matriarch of our family, the other is a diva with a survivor's spirit, and they've both had a profound impact on me in many ways. I simply can't wait for Arya London to get to know...
My Nanna calls me "#1 grandchild". It sounds sweet, but really I think it's just logistics because I was the firstborn grandchild! Even so I still vividly remember childhood moments of her and I in England; she trying to teach me to be a lady, and me wildly rebelling against any sort of order (my mom and I have that trait in common lol). My Nanna raised 5 children of her own, and then went on to help raise all of their children too. So in short, there's nothing about babies and children that she doesn't know, and she's been a wealth of knowledge to me in the few short weeks that Arya has been here. She may think our entire family only loves her because she makes one hell of a Jamaican fried dumpling, but it's so much more than that. She's the glue that keeps our family stuck together like the loveliest band of misfits you'll ever meet. Over the years she's taught me to be gracious yet opinionated, to love myself, to always look on the bright side and to cherish family every day. These are things I know she'll teach her great-granddaughter too, and I think that's just the coolest thing!
My "Mum" is the kind of person that everyone should have the chance to know. The middle child of five, she's the life of the party, the light in any dark place, and the levity in most tough situations. In fact, as her recent battle and victory over breast cancer proves, she's even the levity in her own tough situations. I know that kind of strength and resilience is a part of my DNA and it's the one thing that I also hope gets passed onto Arya. I love that you can see how much she already loves her first granddaughter, simply by the way she looks at her and I can't wait for her to continue showing us both what life is all about. My mum taught me to bounce back even when staying down was easier, and that life lesson continually gets me through the day. She's also taught me to dance to the beat of my own drum and the beauty of it is that every time I look, she's right there dancing with me. She has the greatest laugh, can shop like nobody's business and will forever by #1 on my speed dial. If you're lucky, some mother/daughter relationships transform into friendship, and I can't wait to have that with my own little girl one day.
Me, Myself & Arya
I wouldn't be who I am today without the two of them. And even though there are occasional moments on this new motherhood journey that shake my confidence, deep down I know that I've been learning as they led by example my entire life. The stress of everyday ups and downs is trivial and instead, these are the kind of moments that really truly matter. I know Arya will cherish these photos later on down the road, and I hope she'll feel extremely loved knowing that we're all by her side.
*If you can, hug the women in your life extra close today. Moms, grandmas, sisters, cousins, friends - keep them all close and cherish your unique community of female empowerment! <3